Learning Not to Fear Absence

I have looked at my blog several times over the past couple of months, asking myself why haven’t I added a new post. So much advice warns to not take an absence and be sure to set a routine. Many warnings sometimes will not prevent the inevitable! As a blogger, the basic advice is to focus on the audience and ensure constant engagement with your audience.I totally agree with this advice.

I also believe motive is essential for everything. My motive for this blog is for my enjoyment and for connection. The first is because it causes me joy, that is first and primary for me. The secondary is connection. Being part of a larger context does return to me satisfaction that I am not completely removed from the outside world of communication. I hope that I can encourage someone in their journey of life. Yet if the connection does not produce the outcome I hope for, the definite outcome I wanted above the connection has occurred – I have experienced joy in my expression.

Absence can be framed by others and institutions as indicative of personal ethic and value toward particular entities. You will not get a perfect attendance award from school if you were out sick for any reason, who cares that you were SICK?! No show, no reward! This is hilarious because jobs will terminate you and you will look others prominent positions for life occurrences that cause absence. I don’t see this as not being fair, this is life. I wholeheartedly believe that your life is what you make of it. I refuse to accept someone else’s point of view just because they believe in their perspective as much as I believe in mine. So I tend to believe that absence has a renewing benefit and what is loss from someone else’s hand is far better to lose than this renewing benefit that I receive from God.

The value of absence that I have learned that it affords me is objectivity and perspective. During this absence, I have assessed why I blog and why I’m a minister, life coach, and speaker. Assessing where I am and where I am going, what I have done and what I still need to do would not have been possible unless I was absent. My absence did not  determine my doom, it actually helped me ensure my success. When Jesus didn’t prevent Lazarus death, though he cried at Lazarus’ passing, he expressed the reward of intentional absence. John 11:14-15 ESV, “Then Jesus told them plainly, ‘Lazarus has died, and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him.” Jesus intentional absence gave time for one of the greatest miracles of the Bible, it demonstrated that no matter the depth of death, Jesus had the power to give life back. Jesus stayed away long enough for the customs of that day to be defied in having a hand in Lazarus’ resurrection. His absence substantiated the might and love of God toward his people that they may know that God was a God of redemption, not just of eternity, culture, race, or finance but physical life itself.

Could absence actually produce something far greater than the fear supposed? Fear distorts purpose and it is imperative that we learn how to discern purpose in our actions and motives for the direction that we choose to take. God intended for this absence to produce an ordained outcome that opened my eyes to greater possibilities. My prayer for you is that you discover purpose for your absences that you may embrace greater living and possibilities as well.

Grateful for every absence, Ceci